| Straight women are not members of the LGBT community! Film at 11! |
[Sep. 30th, 2009|04:16 pm] |
| [ | Tags | | | fandom, gay, wtf | ] |
| [ | If I wasn't apathetic, I'd be |
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Why hello there, Lambdawank! I believe you shall be extremely useful during my Yaoicon panel. After I'm done headdesking, anyway.
Basic rundown: Lambda Literary Awards clarifies rules to make it clear that it's an award for books about and by LGBT people. Cue lots of straight slash writers flailing all over the place.
Linkspam picked it up here.
I'm thinking of going through and picking out choice bits for my panel "What's a Nice Lesbian Like You Doing in a Fandom Like This". Any suggestions from the peanut gallery? |
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| Yom Kippur post, same as last year |
[Sep. 28th, 2009|11:46 am] |
| [ | Tags | | | jew | ] |
| [ | If I wasn't apathetic, I'd be |
| |  hopeful | ] |
We have all committed offenses; together, we confess these human sins:
The sins of arrogance, bigotry, cynicism, deceit, egotism flattery, greed, injustice, and jealousy. We have kept grudges, we have been lustful, malicious, and narrow-minded. We have been obstinate, possessive, quarrelsome, rancorous, and selfish. We have seen violence, weakness of will, and xenophobia. We yielded to temptation, and showed zeal for bad causes.
God, I begin to wonder what I'm doing here
With all these people
Confessing their horrible faults.
I think I did a pretty good job last year
Considering what I had to work with
And the world I had to work in;
So what am I doing here?
Well, there's no question
I could have done a little bit better
And I'm also grateful
That I had the chance to do it at all
So even though I'm not exactly sure
Who it is I should be saying this to
I want to say thank you to someone
I want to say sorry to someone
I want to say let's do it better next year
To someone.
And I'm glad there's someone to say these to
Even if I sometimes wonder.
Amen
To everyone I haven't apologized to, and to those I have, and to those I should but can't get the courage to speak up, I'm sorry. In what I've done and what I've said and what I haven't but should have, I've missed the mark this year. I've failed sometimes in being the best friend, coworker, lover, daughter and human being I could be.
I'm sorry, and thank you. Let's try again, together.
L'Shana Tova Tikateivu
May you be inscribed for a good year. |
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| Sorry, I keep forgetting to finish that meme |
[Sep. 10th, 2009|01:52 pm] |
| [ | Tags | | | fandom, metameta, rage | ] |
| [ | If I wasn't apathetic, I'd be |
| |  cynical | ] |
| [ | Play it for me |
| | Maurissa Tancharoen - Nobody's Asian in the Movies | ] |
I glanced at Luminosity (![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif) sockkpuppett)'s post from the other day (screencap here).
Now, ms_treesap has a great post about it, and the_wanlorn similarly is awesome about pointing out the ridiculous assumptions contained within the post.
I'd like to make one more, rather less ragey note about the ridiculousness of Luminosity's failure to understand fandom:
I'm going to say that I don't really understand it.
I mean, that's not to say I haven't done my fair share of bitching about fandom and how I hate the direction it's going, but I usually also turn around and find something else to do in fandom. I got to the point where I hated Wincest? amchara founded ![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/community.gif) spn_summerlove, and I had a source for fic about the women on SPN. When I get tired of the racism and sexism meta I go looking for porn. And honestly, regardless of how much racism and sexism meta there is, it's not hard to find. When I do my relatively rare meta-ing, I write about what interests me. Maybe I'm not as pressured because my many fandom friends are scattered over multiple fandoms, so I don't worry about the crushing weight of fandom dislike (and also, I enjoy meta-ing about race and gender), but if I feel like meta-ing about Hardison's awful accent in The Ice Man Job, I don't think anyone's going to yell at me for disrespecting him for being Black. And if I meta about the fact it does seem like Leverage sidelines the character and that might be because he's Black-- that also is okay. People might disagree, people might agree, people might very well fucking ignore it, but I do it because the topic is there and it's something I want to talk about, not because this is work for me. And you know what? If people ignore it, they're free to.
And therein lies the reason the post rubbed me wrong-- Wanlorn and Tree are totally correct in pointing out how utterly privileged Luminosity was being, but even those of who do try and keep up with the *fails get tired after a while. Shocking, I know, but it burns a person out. But this is fucking fandom. When you get tired, there are other places for you to go and recharge-- I can think of several communities created by FoC for FoC so they could be fannish and recharge and just have fun. I can think of plenty of non-political fic and meta communities that anyone can join and recharge.
Not only was she being privileged in that she refused to understand why so many people have gotten politicized (and, yes, Luminosity, fandom used to be political just by being-- we've grown out of that and now we have to work at keeping our subversive cred, sorry), but she was being privileged by dismissing out of hand the idea that this stuff tires EVERYONE out. And that's why only part of fandom is extremely vocal about it. No one's going to begrudge you ignoring some of it and recharging your batteries. We will begrudge you acting like we're trying to make life hard for you.
Go find a fucking fic community and don't act like a goddamn martyr. |
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| Character meme |
[Aug. 25th, 2009|12:23 pm] |
| [ | Tags | | | meme | ] |
| [ | If I wasn't apathetic, I'd be |
| |  restless | ] |
I know I've been pretty quiet lately. Sorry, guys, ILU all, but I've just been sort of not of the state of mind to be online a lot.
To make it up to you, play memes with me:
Give me a character and I'll give you:
(a) three facts about them from my personal canon/fanon
(b) a reason he/she sucks
(c) a reason he/she is awesomecakes
(d) five things that never happened to that character and/or
(e) five people that character never fell in love with and why |
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| In news that has nothing to do with much of anything |
[Aug. 18th, 2009|02:57 am] |
The Spanner/Shoichi fic I've found is all mopey and angsty. This doesn't really seem to jive with the Spanner/Shoichi dynamic from the episodes where they interact.
I want something with fluff, where they build stuff together until Shouichi has to run off and get jerked around by Byakuran for a while, but where Shouichi looks forward to spending that little bit of time with Spanner. Dammit, I'm out of practice finding what I want in fandom, apparently.
I may have given up trying to find fic with my primary pairing, too. Fuck you, fandom. Also, fuck you for the random numbering scheme for pairings. If you didn't want to do smush-names, couldn't you at least have picked a scheme that made some damn sense?
For those of you not in the know, the fandom is Katekyou Hitman REBORN!, which may be one of the crackier shounen shows out right now. I'm talking, like, a Mafia hitman who's five years old, sort of cracky. |
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[Aug. 11th, 2009|05:30 pm] |
Hi, everyone, I'm still alive!
I've been a little out of communication for a bit-- as mentioned in my last ranty post, jhyanmar and letiwolf just got married 40 miles out from the middle of nowhere in Washington, and I went up to be their Best Man. When I got back, onyxdubh was waiting for me and I haven't seen him in weeks.
And then we went to set up my mother's new laptop and learned that a) said laptop is picky about the routers she'll connect to, b) our old Netgear is not one of them, and c) the other router we had on hand satisfied the laptop but apparently refused to admit that modems existed. I've been running aorund for the past three days trying to fix the problem.
The solution was, apparently, to buy a new router and modem. Yay, technology.
In other words, I've been gone for a while because craziness.
Hi. How are you guys doing? |
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[Jul. 31st, 2009|02:01 pm] |
Dear Sir or Madame,
It was just announced a few days ago that internships were closed. No more intenships [sic]. Meaning, as I understand it (and I've checked as I'm in the same boat as you), that if you haven't added the course they aren't going to let you.
But I could be wrong.
And this, ladies and gentleman, is why I panicked about my for-credit internship a week ago, when they told us that they were closing all registrations for people who hadn't registered for class(es). Since I panicked immediately after the email went out, I managed to get my adviser on the line and sneak into the for-credit internships under the wire.
This is also why you should make sure you're on the official announcement list for whatever programs you're in. You actually find out if they're planning to fuck you over and when.
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[Jul. 25th, 2009|11:45 am] |
Oh hey, new eggs. Didn't notice that.
In other news, I'm going to see Hyde tonight. I get a free ticket, so I might as well go listen to bad J-rock. |
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| There are probably going to be who disagree with me |
[Jul. 20th, 2009|12:58 am] |
I was reading the comments to this lovely blog on Pam's House Blend about a gay couple that went to a friend's wedding, officiated at it, and opened hearts and minds just by being out and loving.
It startled me that there were a number of comments that responded that they would never go to a heterosexual couple's wedding and/or stop respecting said couple because that couple is entering into a discriminatory institution by getting married.
I just don't understand how someone who would never DREAM of sitting at a segregated lunch counter, crossing a picket line, or any of dozens of other violations of solidarity with the disenfranchised, would participate in a discriminatory institution by choosing to get married at this time. Yesterday a wonderful woman who devotes her life to peace and justice told me she was getting married and wanted my address to invite me to the wedding. I was mute I was so hurt and shocked. She was oblivious to what she was doing.
I never thought of it that way-- marriage isn't like a lunch counter, and you can't put pressure on the owner by boycotting. Refraining from doing something harmful-- like crossing a picket line-- or boycotting a private institution, like a lunch counter is entirely different from refraining from making a public commitment to each other. Civil Marriage is a number of privileges that are conferred upon the couple that are useful and, indeed, in some situations necessary. It's a recognition of commitment, and refraining from making that commitment to each other (and gaining the ability to make medical decisions for each other, among other rights) doesn't get me any closer to being able to make a commitment to (and medical decisions for) my girlfriend.
I don't think in this particular situation that choosing not to get married in solidarity is something nearly as useful as getting married and then continuing to advocate for others to have the same rights. And while I don't doubt that a group like The National Marriage Boycott might send a strong political message, it bothers me on multiple levels. For one thing, a heterosexual couple is still exercising their choice-- they still have the privilege of being able to choose whether or not to marry, and if they don't understand that, the exercise is useless. And for another, I don't want someone to deprive themselves because I do without. I see it as the same sort of situation as someone choosing not to buy themselves necessities because someone else is going without. It's a nice gesture, if and only if combined with giving to or advocating for the other person, but I don't expect a lot of people to do it, and in the end it seems like a mostly self-centered response anyway. It also centers a certain primacy around marriage rights-- which, yes, marriage rights are extremely important in settling family rights laws and setting the precedent that LGBT people are part of ordinary families, but there are lots of gay rights and advocacy that have nothing whatsoever to do with family/marriage rights.
In the end, if a heterosexual couple chooses to refrain from getting married in solidarity with the LGBT community, that's a nice gesture. I appreciate it. But I don't respect someone who doesn't get married because I can't more than I respect someone who gets married because they're in love, want to make that commitment in front of their God, their country and everyone. Not choosing what's best for you as a couple seems like cutting off your nose to spite your face.
If this sounds like a visceral, gut reaction, that's because it is. My friend, jhyanmar, is getting married in a few weeks, and I have every respect for the guy. If, God forbid, he should fall into a coma, I want letiwolf to be able to make those medical decisions for him. If they want to foster a child, I want them to be able to do it together. I don't want them to have to jump through hoops and get dicked around just because I'd get dicked around in those situations. |
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[Jul. 17th, 2009|09:12 am] |
In between attempts to get through to the Unemployment office, I'm faffing around on the internet. Here, have something.
The Fandom Secrets Meme
Guess mine! |
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| Comics |
[Jul. 6th, 2009|08:18 pm] |
Hi, I'm alive. Things have been a bit hectic and I've also had very little drive to blog lately. But hello again, world.
Since things have been hectic, I hadn't picked up comics for... oh, about two months. I finally did, and I'd like to make a short post about The Women Comics-- not the indy stuff, or stuff like Runways that people give to chicks they'd like to get interested in comics (although whoever thought of doing that to Runaways seriously hates all that is good and right with the world)-- I mean the small handful mainstream comics starring women that accumulated in my box while I was off trying not to go crazy. Considering how long I've been out of the loop, a couple of these are a bit old now, but oh well.
Gotham City Sirens, Issue 1: I get the feeling I want to like this more than I really did. ( More )
Wonder Woman, Issue 33: I can't be the only one who thinks having the Amazon Queen replaced by a man is entirely missing the point of Themyscira in the first place, can I? ( More )
All New Savage She-Hulk, Issue 3 (of 4): It's a cute mini-series and the rather obvious plot twist still made me laugh, ( More )
Marvel Divas, Issue 1 (of 4): I was expecting to get hit in the face with sexism and cheesecake after reading the book's summary a month or so ago, ( More )
Miss America , Issue 1 (of 1): HEY MARVEL! Why the hell isn't this an on-going monthly? ( More )
I know there are other Comics What Are About Girls, but I don't buy them. If there's one you think I should, tell me.
And I am pleased to learn that Rikki Barnes-- Bucky's female alternate dimension counterpart-- will be getting her own mini-series, Nomad: Girl Without a World in September |
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[Jun. 1st, 2009|07:03 pm] |
Hey guys! Another quick update. I'm feeling very hermit-y.
Mom came home from the hospital on Saturday. Her birthday on Friday was... strained, but we had delicious food, and even mm had a little piece of cake. She's at home, recuperating-- she's not totally well, but at least she has enough breath to cough now.
The final diagnosis was "pneumonia and hypertension, complicated by bad reactions to medication." Also, an infection in one leg that had nothing to do with the rest of it, but still sucked. |
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| I didn't burn the house down, but I did drink two glasses of wine |
[May. 27th, 2009|10:54 pm] |
Update time!
Thank you to everyone who commented and sent good wishes. I'm doing okay, dad's being his usual strong, silent self, and onyxdubh is my hero for dropping everything when he got my text message and coming into the city to keep me from killing myself via kitchen accident. (Just a note: deep frying when you're not in an emotionally good place is an extremely bad idea.)
Mom is still in the hospital, and is projected to be there for the next few days-- sadly probably through her birthday on Friday. She's got pneumonia, at least, and an infection in her leg that was caused by falling about a month ago. We're not sure if there's congestive heart failure or some weird liver damage in there, and they tested her for influenza tonight, so there's weirdness that's complicating the diagnosis (first person to make a House joke gets diagnosed with Lupus). That said, as far as anyone can tell it' not life-threatening, just frustrating and scary. No one really likes hospitals at the best of times, and I think the whole "don't know how long she'll be in the hospital" thing is shaking all of us up.
Anyone in the area who wants to check on me in-person-- I'm probably not going to be around much of tomorrow or Friday, but drop me a text message or give me a call and I'll try to call y'all this weekend. Hopefully by then I'll be a little bit more clear-headed. |
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[May. 26th, 2009|12:52 pm] |
2009 is officially fired.
Mom just got admitted to the hospital-- she's got fluid in her lungs.
And on top of that, Prop 8 was upheld. Plus craziness this weekend (it was, on the whole, a fun weekend, but it had its moments of IWANTTOKILLTHEWORLD). Plus dad losing his job. Plus mom getting knocked down to half-time.
This year is fired, okay. |
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[May. 21st, 2009|01:51 am] |
In other news, I'm using ![[info] - personal](http://s.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png) ellery_queen as a dump journal for my fics. There aren't many, since I write when I have inspiration, and I'm always a little iffy about writing fic off the top of my head. Also, comment_fic likes Chris Kane a lot, and I'm really only interested in him when he's banging Aldis Hodge's character, so... erh. Yeah. |
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[May. 16th, 2009|10:26 pm] |
I, like many other people, have Dreamwidth invite codes. Six, in fact.
Respond here with your email address if you want one. |
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| Tim/Who? |
[May. 16th, 2009|06:39 pm] |
I want to make fun of the tim_bernard comm, which ships everyone's favorite Robin with some guy who showed up a couple of times in the 90s Robin comic (you know, the time period in which Steph was alive and they were dating?)
I think the truth is I'm just jealous that no one's made a comm for Match and Tim. |
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[May. 10th, 2009|12:06 pm] |
Happy Mother's Day. Have some dragonspam.
A more interesting update will come eventually, I promise. Probably after finals are over.
   
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| I statements |
[May. 3rd, 2009|01:27 pm] |
1) I have two Dreamwidth codes, if anyone wants.
2) I sent in the four panel bids for Yaoicon. We'll see what we shall see in about a month or so, since they like to wait for a critical mass of panels before going through and doing basic scheduling.
3) I would like to punch Geoff John's in the face for his description of the Star Sapphire Lanterns. Why yes, it's totally okay to make the all female Lantern Force weak-minded. Except for how it isn't. Also, why is it necessary to make that an all-female Lantern Force, again? |
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